Motherhood has been an extremely humbling experience. from the sec you conceive, lessons are bestowed upon u. U learn things from scratch, handle the dirtiest and most painful of chores, u feel a myriad of emotions that are not within your control but your baby's. And it's a time when you just have to let go and remind yourself that sometimes it is ok to accept imperfections. That you are flawed and mistakes will be made.
Every child is unique and presents a special set of challenges. It differs so much because of the variables at stake. U wouldn't know the baby's character, what's in store for him or her, what milestones they will reach and in accordance to which timeline and when the inevitable difficult times may come, like illness. So it baffles me how some parents can judge and dish out advice with a clear right or wrong perspective. I think the lines are very blurred. There's no right or wrong. It's what works best for the child and parents, and gives them happiness. What works for you may not be the best solution for others. I also learn that there's always a story behind every scenario that we third party mortals must not judge. For instance, some babies have to be cradled and rocked to sleep not because they are bratty (as newborns and infants, they wouldn't know better to deliberately push the limits of their parents), but due to acid reflux. That 60 degree elevation they get from that cuddle gives them immense comfort you can never imagine.
U can't throw in the towel with parenthood. U simply persevere on and aim to give your best. Best reminder to self that has worked magic is to not forget that the baby is helpless. My son only has us. :) and the tragic irony in this? The reverse is true when we are old, rickety and confined to our bed. Our diapers may need to be changed too.
