I've come to accept the way of life in Singapore and not to hold any romantic notions about it. That buying a home has to come first before a couple discusses the wedding. It's not quite the way of life in many countries and I used to think this somehow shortchanges the quality of life.

My perspective has changed now as I see the advantage of having a couple think very seriously about their future and make a commitment, though sooner than expected. If things don't pull through, at least all they have to do is to retract the house application and not head for a divorce.